An Amazing Story About Lowering the Gaze
The righteous servant, Sulaimān ibn Yasār, may Allāh have mercy on him, departed from his town travelling, accompanied by a companion. They went to the market to purchase provisions, while Sulaimān remained seated, waiting for him.
Sulaimān ibn Yasār was handsome and well-built, one of the most beautiful in appearance and among the most pious in abstaining from what Allāh…
Forgiveness, tolerance, and overlooking faults between husband and wife
A human being is not an infallible angel, free from error; rather, he sometimes acts rightly and sometimes errs—both in his duty toward Allāh and in his dealings with His servants. There is no remedy for this except repentance to Allāh, and forgiveness and pardon among people.
Imam Ash-Shāfiʿī (may Allāh have mercy on him) said:
وَعاشِر…
I recieved the above question and forwarded it to Ustadh Abu Ibrahim Fahd hafidahullah, who responded with the following:
1⃣. Degrading for the man.
2⃣. Risks his wife losing respect for him
3⃣. Tashbabbuh bil kuffar possibly due to porn (using whips etc, because he will be a slave)
4⃣. Risk of being decensitised therefore may want to go beyond halal bounds
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Addition from myself:
5⃣. Tashbabbuh bin Nisaa possibly, due to the hadith of ʿAmr ibn Al-Aḥwaṣ:
((واستَوصوا بالنِّساءِ خيرًا، فإنَّما هُنَّ عوانٍ عندَكم))
"And treat women…
If it is not permissible to have intercourse with a wife other than the one whose turn it is, how should the following ḥadīth be understood?
Anas ibn Mālik (may Allāh be pleased with him) said:
((كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ يَدُورُ عَلَى نِسَائِهِ فِي السَّاعَةِ الْوَاحِدَةِ مِنَ اللَّيْلِ وَالنَّهَارِ، وَهُنَّ إِحْدَى عَشْرَةَ. قَالَ : قُلْتُ لِأَنَسٍ : أَوَكَانَ يُطِيقُهُ ؟ قَالَ : كُنَّا نَتَحَدَّثُ أَنَّهُ أُعْطِيَ…
What is the ruling on a husband leaving the wife whose turn it is to visit his other wife?
Ibn Qudāmah (may Allāh have mercy on him) said:
“As for entering upon her co-wife during her time: If it is at night, it is not permissible except for necessity, such as when she is at the point of death and he wishes to be present with her, or she wishes to entrust him with a will, or something unavoidable. If he does that…
As for the children born from this woman, they are legitimate children, because they were born as a result of intercourse under a mistaken assumption (shubhat An-nikāḥ). The scholars have stated that
Marrying a Previously Married Woman in Light of Social Criticism
Question: I am a man thirty-five years of age. I married a woman who was fifteen years old at the time; I married her when I was twenty-eight. It should be noted that this woman had previously been married to another man, but she remained with him for only three months and did not bear him any children. I married her immediately after her divorce from…
A big question is asked: Why doesn’t our Shaykh write to the rulers and require them to encourage young men to practice polygyny? Especially when a certain Islamic country’s leader has adopted this view. He says: women are far more than men, so why is this Sunnah not revived?
Sheikh Salih As-Suhaimi:
We call to this matter and we call to polygyny, even though some women became upset with us. We call to it day and…
Seek A Righteous Wife
Ibn Al-Arabī Al-Mālikī rahimahullah said:
«إذا لم يكن للرجل زوجة صالحة فإنه لا يستقيم أمره معها إلا بذهاب جزء من دينه، وذلك مشاهد معلوم بالتجربة»
‎”If the man doesn’t have a wife who is righteous, his affair will not remain intact with her except with losing a portion of his religion. That is something that has been witnessed and is well known by way of experience.”
[أحكام…
We Are Meant For Each Other
Sheikh Ahmad An-Najmī rahimahullah said:
«فالرجل لا يتم حاله ولا تطيب له الحياة إلا بالزوجة الصالحة. والمرأة لا تطمئن ولا تطيب لها الحياة إلا بالزوج الصالح»
‎The man’s affair will not be complete nor will he have a good life except by way of a righteous wife. And the woman will not have ease nor will she have a good life except by way of a righteous husband.
‏[تأسيس الأحكام…
Composure, Self-Control & Preservation of Dignity
Sheikh Abu Mashkoor hafidahullah mentioned:
"The wise would conceal their sudden circumstances and suppress whatever sorrow, fear, or anxiety befell them—not from an inability to speak, but from a capacity for self-control and the preservation of dignity.
Thus, in their biographies one reads that a certain man was threatened, or lived for a period in fear; yet…
Why would one exclude the Prophet ﷺ from this, especially when he ﷺ himself said women are from the delights of this world:
((حبب إلي من دنياكم النساء...))
(https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/17270/%D9%85%D8%B9%D9%86%D9%89-%D9%82%D9%88%D9%84%D9%87-%EF%B7%BA-%D8%AD%D8%A8%D8%A8-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%8A-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%AF%D9%86%D9%8A%D8%A7%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B7%D9%8A%D8%A8)
Hence, Allāh favoured him over all other men by giving him the freedom to marry as many women as He wished:
{إن أراد النبي أن ينكحها...خالصة لك}
[Surah Al-Aḥzāb:…
The Prophet ﷺ said, as narrated by Abū Mūsā Al-Ashʿarī (may Allāh be pleased with him):
((أيُّما رجلٍ كانت له جاريةٌ فأدَّبها فأحسن تعليمها، وأعتقها وتزوجها، فله أجران، وأيُّما عبدٍ أدَّى حقَّ الله وحقَّ مواليه فله أجران))
"Any man who has a female slave and educates her well, trains her properly, frees her, and marries her, will have two rewards. Likewise, any servant who fulfills the rights of Allah and his…
((دِينارٌ أنْفَقْتَهُ في سَبيلِ اللهِ، ودِينارٌ أنْفَقْتَهُ في رَقَبَةٍ، ودِينارٌ تَصَدَّقْتَ به علَى مِسْكِينٍ، ودِينارٌ أنْفَقْتَهُ علَى أهْلِكَ؛ أعْظَمُها أجْرًا الذي أنْفَقْتَهُ علَى أهْلِكَ)).
"A dinar you spend in the way of Allāh, a dinar you spend to free a slave, a dinar you give in charity to a poor person, and a dinar you spend on your family—of these, the one with the greatest reward is that which you…
Furthermore, the command (فَٱنكِحُوا۟), according to scholars of uṣūl, denotes obligation, but even when considering other evidence, it would at most be downgraded to istiḥbāb (recommendation), not al
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▪️POINT 2
The Prophet ﷺ said:
((أَمَا وَالله إِنِّي لأَخْشَاكُمْ للهِ وَأَتْقَاكُمْ لَهُ، لَكِنِّي أَصُومُ وَأُفْطِرُ، وَأُصَلِّي وَأَرْقُدُ وَأَتَزَوَّجُ النِّسَاءَ، فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي))
"By Allāh, I am more devoted and more God-conscious than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I pray and sleep, and I also marry WOMEN. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is…
This is a short research paper on the ruling of polygyny, which I have titled:
التعدُّد بين الإباحةِ والتعبُّد
Polygyny: Between Permissibility and Worship
The objective is to answer the following question: What is the default ruling on polygyny?
[Disclaimer: This is a general discussion on the ruling of polygyny. Individual cases may vary, so one should seek proper counsel before making decisions].
May Allāh…
If you are fasting a voluntary fast and your mother tells you to break your fast...
Narrated Al-Husayn ibn Harb with a strong chain of narration:
Al-Mu‘tamir ibn Sulaiman told us, from Hisham Al-Dastuwa’i, from Al-Hasan, about a man whose mother told him: “Break your fast.” He said:
«لِيُفْطِرْ، وَلَيْسَ عَلَيْهِ قَضَاءٌ، وَلَهُ أَجْرُ الصَّوْمِ وَالْبِرِّ»
"He should break it, and he does not need to make it…
No invite for my wife? Then I’m not coming
Imam Muslim narrated in his Ṣaḥīh from Anas (may Allāh be pleased with him):
أَنَّ جَارًا، لِرَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ، فَارِسيًّا. كَانَ طَيِّبَ الْمَرَقِ. فَصَنَعَ لِرَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ. ثُمَّ جَاءَ يَدْعُوهُ. فَقَال: ((وَهذِهِ؟)) لِعَائِشَةَ. فَقَال: لَا. فَقَال رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ: ((لَا))
"A Persian neighbour of the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ, who was good at making broth, prepared some…
Rest your head on your wife's thigh now and then… it’s Sunnah
Al-Bukhārī narrated in his Ṣaḥīḥ (6452):
from ʿĀʾishah (may Allāh be please with her), who said:
جَاءَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ رضي الله عنه، وَرَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ وَاضِعٌ رَأْسَهُ عَلَى فَخِذِي.
“Abū Bakr (may Allāh be pleased with him) came while the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ had his head resting on my thigh.”
How to Deal With Clearcut Tabarruj
One way to stop women from dressing immodestly is to render such pieces of clothing unwearable.
Ibn Al-Qayyim rahimahullah mentioned in At-Ṭuruq Al-Ḥukmiyyah (p. 280):
‘It is incumbent upon him (the ruler) to prevent women from going out adorned and beautified, and to prevent them from wearing garments that render them clothed yet naked, such as loose or tight clothing, and to…
Is It Wrong to Consider a Spouse’s Ability to Help Care for My Elderly Mother When Marrying?
On the authority of Jābir ibn ʿAbdillāh (may Allāh be pleased with him and his father), who said:
The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said to me, “Have you married?”
I replied, “Yes.”
He said, “A virgin or a previously married woman?”
I replied, “Rather, a previously married woman.”
He said, “Why not a young girl whom you could…
